Life has been pretty crazy lately. The last two months have just been hectic with the start of kohanga and work, family time, Aston’s birthday, and learning how to balance this new routine we have. So I haven’t had much time to blog properly at all and I’m craving it.My laptop has also been broken since last September and I dislike using my husband’s laptop. BUT he just fixed it last night (yay for geeky husbands!) and I’m stoked to have it working again.
So I really just want to catch you up on life lately. Aston has been at kohanga for over a month now. She is loving it! She settled in really well and has only had a couple of days where she has cried at drop off. I think the transition to kohanga was harder on me than it was for her haha. Everyday I am seeing more and more reasons why it was the best decision for her. The fact that she’s settled in well is already a good thing. In the second week she realized that going to kohanga was a permanent thing and she got a little grizzly. Then she started teething again and got a little snotty so became very clingy at drop offs. The teachers there are amazing though. As soon as she started crying they’d come and get her and give her cuddles and she would stop crying straight away. Last week I really started to see how much she is loving it. She would watch me walk out the door and would smile and wave or if I was lucky she’d blow me kisses. When she sees her teachers she gets really happy and excited to see them. She started sleeping longer during nap time at kohanga which shows that she is getting comfortable there. At home she can have two 2.5-3 hour naps a day but at kohanga she was only really sleeping for about 40 minutes at a time and she’d be exhausted on the way home. Last week she was sleeping for 2+ hours at kohanga which was great!! Yesterday when I dropped her off she reached for the ground, so I let her go and then she crawled off to her friend and didn’t even look back to say goodbye! When I picked her up she didn’t want to come home. Instead she started showing me the things she likes to do and we stayed at the kohanga for a good 20 minutes before she finally let us leave. She has also cried when I pick her up because she doesn’t want to leave. Seriously, kid? How bad is it at home for you to not want to come back? Haha. We have also noticed that she is doing a lot of new things that she has learnt at kohanga. She is loving pulling things out of something and putting them into another thing eg. pulling the pegs out of the peg bucket and putting them in her school bag (yes, packing her school bag is a new thing right now haha). Things like this I have been trying to teach her for MONTHS! And then suddenly she’s doing it! There are so many cool things she’s been doing and it’s really awesome to see what she is learning from kohanga. We really are seeing all the blessings from making the decision to put her into kohanga.
I’ve also been back at work for a month now and I am loving it! Before I went on maternity leave I was starting to get a little tired of the job I was doing. I guess I was also physically exhausted in my last trimester of pregnancy so it was affecting my mental state a lot. So I was a little apprehensive to return to work but knew I had to do it for our daughter. I also thought that I had lost myself in my year at home being a mother and I wasn’t sure how I would fit into the team again. WELL. It was like I’d never left! As in I slipped right in to my old self and fit into the team like I’d been there the whole time. I was also given new responsibilities that challenge me and keep me so busy that my day goes by quickly. I LOVE the new work I’ve been assigned to do and I think they really play on my strengths. The team I get to work with are so awesome. I really don’t think you will find a more fun or happy accounting firm any where! We have always been quite a tight knit team and it’s great to see that the vibe is still the same. I literally do not wake up dreading going to work or wishing I didn’t have to see a colleague. They are so much fun and make the job 10 times more interesting. It also helps that we all love food (a little too much) so we are always finding excuses to eat. So I am always looking forward to going to work when I have to and I am always looking forward to being home with my family. I still get two days at home with Aston (excluding the weekend) so we are getting our special time together. But it’s really nice to have that break from each other where she is learning and growing and interacting with the other children and teachers, and I’m with other adults and really using my brain.
Life feels very rewarding and right right now. I feel like I have a good balance in my life. I found this clip of a CEO who shared how he keeps a good work-life balance and he said he has learnt to “live in the moment and be present.” I thought that was great advice and I’ve been trying really hard to remember that when I’m at work, I’m at work. My mindset is focused on getting the work done and making sure I’m doing the best I can. When I’m at home with my family, I’m at home with my family. I’m not thinking about work or worrying about jobs I need to be doing at work. I leave that for Tuesday-Thursday 9am-4pm. I’ve chosen to stay home with my daughter on Mondays and Fridays so I can spend time with her and have that time to teach her myself, so that’s how I’m going to use my time. I find that by living this way I am happier in my workplace and happier at home. I spend more quality time with my family because I don’t get as much time with them as I used to. Also because Aston is growing so fast and I don’t want to miss anything because I’m checking work emails or anything like that.
I’m so grateful for the promptings of the Holy Ghost and I’m grateful for a loving and supportive husband who is also in tune with the Spirit. We have seen so many blessings because of our decision to follow these promptings. Our family is all the better for it.